Just got back from a girly weekend in las vegas with 2 of my best girlfriends. We live apart from each other, so it was great to get together.

One friend (she lives far away & we see each other about once every 2-3 years) kind of bummed out the trip. I've never known her to be so negative. She's definitely got an attitude, but I've always loved her for it. She just pulled this Passive-Aggressive drama the whole trip and ended up in a dramatic crying explosion. Ugh!

She wanted to do all this stuff...which we did...but complained about everything and blamed either us or uncontrollable circumstances for her unhappiness.

She has fantasy expectations and gets all dramatic when perfection doesn't happen. It's all her. I know it...my other friend knows it. I don't take it personally because she sets the level so high, that she sets HERSELF up for failure.

The only way to comfort her is to lower yourself into her misery and bitch & complain right along with her. I wasn't going to do that & neither was the other friend...hence the crying drama that "we were mad at her" and "not being supportive". Making us feel bad for not being upset right along with her & agreeing everything sucked.

I thought it was a great trip & so did the other friend. The dramatic friend will be left alone for a while.

AGH... every group of friends really DOES have one of those.

Glad you didn't let her spoil your good time!

Ugh, that sucks you had to deal with that! I'm glad you had a good time, otherwise, though!

Sorry you had to deal with that. :(

I used to have a friend like that. We were friends for 10+ years. She started to bring me down. I had to leave the friendship, esp after she continually would trash my fiance, even though all of my other friends and family members enjoyed his company.

Ugh! I've had that happen before and it is not fun. :( Especially when you're on a trip to enjoy yourselves.

But I wonder...since you said she's never been this negative before...if something is going on in her life? Sometimes when people are depressed or have a lot going on they can be hard to be with. Obviously I don't know her, but just a thought, especially if this not her norm and her past "attitude" was more endearing than a drag.

Sorry you had to go through this. :(

thanks so much for the support!!!! It's actually good to hear other people have these emotional vampires in their lives. I am not alone.


But I wonder...since you said she's never been this negative before...

Actually she has always been this way to some extent, but this is really the first time I've witnessed using her own close friends this directly as the culprits for her misery. In the past it's been faults of strangers or acquaintances not really in the "group". She does take jabs at her friends, but not as frequent & with as much intensity as this was.

I think she used us because we were the only ones there to blame. If we would have been in a bigger group, she would have distributed the blame around more evenly and we wouldn't have taken the punches directly and as often.

As for me, I can handle the punches because I know it's her personality...but I also hit a boiling point at the end and chose to not even try to console her anymore. When I stopped trying (I didn't have a talk with her, nor did I make any comments...I just ignored it), that took her over the edge.

thanks so much for the support!!!! It's actually good to hear other people have these emotional vampires in their lives. I am not alone.



Actually she has always been this way to some extent, but this is really the first time I've witnessed using her own close friends this directly as the culprits for her misery. In the past it's been faults of strangers or acquaintances not really in the "group". She does take jabs at her friends, but not as frequent & with as much intensity as this was.

I think she used us because we were the only ones there to blame. If we would have been in a bigger group, she would have distributed the blame around more evenly and we wouldn't have taken the punches directly and as often.

As for me, I can handle the punches because I know it's her personality...but I also hit a boiling point at the end and chose to not even try to console her anymore. When I stopped trying (I didn't have a talk with her, nor did I make any comments...I just ignored it), that took her over the edge.

That just sucks. :( I've known people like that (actually one person in particular). We are no longer friends. I'm glad you set limits with her and didn't buy into her drama. It really is childish behavior.

Wow, that really is a dramatic friend. I'm glad you didn't stoop to her level, and let her know your thoughts. I had a friend like that in college, she always complained about everything. Needless to say, we're no longer friends.

Dramatic friends...everyone's got one! I would have done exactly what you did and just stopped. She needs to learn that behavior like that isn't appropriate.